You & Me

“eh eh, what type of boyfriend/ girlfriend are you looking for ?Why are you so picky? ”

“ what type of man/woman you like?”

These are all the common topics among friends when they are talking about relationship. Or I should say, these are the most discussed topic among GIRLS. *gossipppzzzz*  Girls always love to chat about LOVE issues as they are naturally ROMANTIC animals. Right Gurls??? Everyone has different opinion and requirements for their partners as everyone see things differently. Therefore, In this post, I am going to talk about the way one chooses their partners. 

First and foremost, PROXIMITY!!!!! Do you actually realize most people will choose people who are actually NEARER with them as their future boyfriend/girlfriend candidates? It is mainly because if two people are staying near to each other, they can reduce or avoid the hassle of travelling around just to meet up for dating. Or i should say, the BOYFRIEND will be easier as he does not need to drive all the way just to pick up the GIRLFRIEND. (save cost, save petrol, save energy) However, there are still a lot of exception whereby people prefer someone who stay far away from them. Their reason? They want to get out from the OLD place and community that they had already stayed for 20years, 30years or even longer. They need some fresh air from other places to live up their boring life. Some people even go for love across country or region!! How awesome is that right?? Long distance relationship is not easy as one needs to have strong determination and put more efforts to maintain the love. Besides, because of their “mighty" love, therefore we have some beautiful and cute mix children. (Do you agree that people with mix blood tend to be more good looking?) 

Second, Attractiveness!!!! What is the definition of attractive then? Sexy body, cute face? good personality?  Maybe this should be the no. 1 criteria instead of proximity. Appearance always comes first right?? People tend to be attracted by one’s appearance first before he or she continues to develop the feeling towards that person and eventually, build up relationship with that person. it is normal and common scenario to see that good looking people tend to start a relationship earlier than average looking people. Although people tend to emphasize on inner beauty, but do you really think you want to be together with someone who has  "face problem" when you actually have the qualifications to get a better looking people as your partner? at the same time, the society nowadays are pretty realistic, therefore,how you look still counts.

Similarity will be the next. Similarity covers a large scope and this is what helps to tie two person together and creates topics. For example, if two people study the same course in college, they can discuss and do revision together as both people understand the same knowledge. Beside, they will have the same group of friend as well and this is easier for them if there is any group outing. At least no one will feel left out. In addition, some people will go for someone who has the same hobby. For example, if the BOYFRIEND loves fishing but the GIRLFRIEND love partying, it is difficult for both people to accommodate each other's  need as they have totally different personality. Same theory apply to a pair of couple with different favorite food. If the BOYFRIEND cannot eat spicy food but the GIRLFRIEND cannot survive without chili, it is obvious that they will face difficulties when choosing restaurants.

However, there are still people who prefer to choose one who has completely different personality from him or her. Using the same example from the paragraph above, the BOYFRIEND who loves quiet (fishing as hobby)  might need a happening GIRLFRIEND (loves partying) to brighten up his dull life. The happening GIRLFRIEND is actually complementing his quiet personality.

In conclusion, everyone has different preference in their process of searching for their SOUL MATE. BUT, as the saying goes, LOVE IS BLIND!!! Most of the time, our current partner is totally different from what we have had imagined previously. If you imagine to have a tall boyfriend, you might end up having a short boyfriend. *this is what had actually happened to me..but try to think it in a good way, appearance comes second when you realize that HE really loves you. It is not easy to find someone who treats you just like a princess and really compatible with you right??*

 Good Luck in your journey to TRUE LOVE..Bon Voyage!!! 

                                                                                                  By Sue

Symmetrical Vs Complementary Relationship

According to the marriage experts, they said that have a deep knowledge and understanding the characteristics of your relationship type can add value to you and your partner relationship. Such understanding can help to bridging the bond between you and your partner.  Now, what type of relationship does you and your partner share? Is it a symmetrical relationship or is it a complementary relationship?

If you and your partner share a symmetrical type of relationship, it means that both of you perceived similar traits, characteristics, backgrounds, hobbies and other factors that are similar. Couples usually develop this type of relationship because they find out that they both felt that they are in the same boat as the other; the way you talk, the interest, the experiences etc. Both of you will then feel that ‘hey, we are a perfect match made in heaven’. Both of you will feel very comfortable being with one another as you perceive your partner as the same way you perceive yourself. Both of you are just the mirror of each other. Normally, when this happens, such similarities factors are vital in the process of developing mutuality.

Symmetrical Relationship

On the other hand, if you and your partner have different traits, characteristics, backgrounds, hobbies and other factors that are mostly opposite then you are having a complementary relationship. Couples usually develop this type of relationship because they felt that they provide balance to the other. For example, you are very good in planning but you are not good in organizing and executing plans. On the other hand, your boyfriend is very good in organizing and executing plans. Thus, your boyfriend provides a supplement or balance to your weaknesses. You felt that you and your partner are perfect matches as his opposite traits added advantages to your weaknesses and your weaknesses added advantages to him.

Complementary Relationship

Both symmetrical and complementary relationship however has both pros and cons.  By maximising the positive aspects help to maintain our relationship. For example, if you know that you and your partner shared a symmetrical type of relationship, then use the natural similarities between you and your partner to strengthen the relationship. On the other hand, if both you and your partner shared complementary relationship, then focus on the differences between both you and your partner to maintain the relationship.

*However, we do not only apply these types of relationships do not only apply in the ‘love’ relationship. We also apply it in our friendship as well as family members. Sometimes, we just love to be around with those who are similar or just the opposite of us. The most important thing is that we have to be truly ourselves no matter who we are with. We are unique in all ways. 

Steffi

The Great First Impression

“Don’t judge a book by its cover.” Since young, our parents always taught us not to judge someone based on their physical appearance. However, how many of us really do not judge others? We often judge others by the way they dress up themselves, the way they talk and etc. We CANNOT, NOT make a first impression. We form opinions about people through seeing and hearing. By hearing, it also helps us to form opinions about some whom we do not know. For example, if someone told you that the boy sitting next to you is a drug addict, will you be friend with him or will you keep a distance away from him in order to avoid unwanted circumstances?

Now, how can we create great first impressions of others towards us? People first judge us through physical appearance. Our appearances can tell others a thousand and one thing about us. For example, if you are fresh graduates and you are going for an interview, you have to make sure that you have to wear a darker colour or a blazer to add power to your position knowing that you are fresh grads. Besides, the way you posture yourself during an interview is also very important. Handshake with the interviewer is also very important. It is one of the key to successful interview. A firm handshake shows that you are confident of yourself.

Next, we can also create great first impressions through our body language. If you are meeting up someone for the very first time, always be ahead of time and never be late. This can help others to have a good impression on you. If you showed up on time, others know that you have excellent time management. Besides, always smile and greet others no matter to someone you known or even a stranger. A smile can bring a relationship closer. People will think that you are a very warm and friendly person.

Time Management

People always form their first impression about us when they meet us. The first impression of others towards us is very important as it determines the relationship between us and others. A good first impression towards us can help to create a good relationship with others. On the other hand, if people have a very bad first impression about you, that moment will be the first and last moment of your relationship with the others. First good impression about us can also determine the degree of likeness of others towards you. 

Steffi

Engaging in Active Listening

In our daily life, we often engage in active listening, without knowing that we actually engaging in it. For example, in supermarket, when the salesperson approach you a product and it attracts you. you then start to ask question regarding the product. In this situation, you have already involve yourself in active listening. Active listening always occur when we seek advice and information from others.

Listen for Meaning

Few weeks ago, my friend, an insurance agent from American International Assurance Berhad (AIA) came to me and told me about his new insurance plan which is called the Multiple Life Plan or known as the 36 Critical Illnesses Plan. All these while, I wanted to have coverage on 36 critical illnesses since I do not have any, so I told him to fix a time with me whereby we both can sit down and he can further explain the advantages of having this critical illnesses plan.

So, when the time came, he explained his plan to me. He told me that how good the plan is. He also did a comparison of his plan with other insurance company. Well, for me, when it comes to buying a life plan, I used to ask long-winded question just to ensure that I understand the product well. I have been asking many WH question, such as what do I need to do if I have been diagnosed with critical illnesses, how is the payment mode, how can I claim and etc. 

When I have understood the product well, he then asked me my feelings towards the plan. Was the plan that they offering good and so on. Most of the feedback I gave were positive as I think the product was pretty well designed and plan. In this situation, I have eventually engaged myself in active listening as I listen attentively to what he said. When I have a need or desire for the product, I started asking him lots of question to make sure that I fully understand what the product is all about. I also gave responses and feedback of the product. 

When engaging ourselves in active listening, we must always get ourselves interested and getting ourselves involve with what others trying to tell us. through responding and giving feedback, it also helps us to get involve in active listening. we have to pay attention and give fully focus on the messages  that others are trying to convey to us. besides, active listening also involve "question and answer" session to make sure that we truly understand what others are tying to tell us. Basically, active listening involve the following:

Steffi         

The Johari Window

This is a test we do in class recently- The Johari Window.

It actually helps me to know myself and my relationship with people around me better so I can determine how far and how deep that relationship can grow and develop in future.

First of all, think of ONE target person. (any person will do)

In the 'Open' column, fill in things you freely shared with that person.

eg: hometown, age or any secrets that you told that person

In the 'Blind' column, fill in things that you only realized after being told by that person.

eg: your appearance at that person's perception, your characteristics at that person's point of view

In the 'Hidden' column, fill in things that you know about yourself but that person does not know.

eg: you are an alcoholic, you smoke, you are easily offended

In the 'Unknown' column, fill in things that both you and the person does not know.

eg: you have a fatal disease and both of you don't know how long can you live,

Try filling up this window with a different target person,

 for example, family members, friends and acquaintances. 

You will realize that this window quadrants will expand and contract in different shapes depending on how deep the relationship you build with that person.

Have fun!

Rachel

Pseudo Listening

This is a new word that I learn recently in class and found myself as a pseudo listener.
Pseudo basically means false or not sincere. 
Therefore, a pseudo listener is people who is isn't listening properly due to distractions.
Thinking back it makes me feel guilty because most of the time I did pseudo listening when my mother is trying to talk with me, to understand me better. 
Although I always answer her uh huh, okay, en, yes, alright, sure etc. I wasn't paying attention at all because my focus is on my laptop or mobile phone. 
Putting myself in her shoes, I think I hurt her feelings when she once told me: 

You know, your laptop sees you more than I do.

Since watching my grandmother held her last breath in front of me, I realize that time flies really fast.
Thus, appreciating moments and time talking with my parents, understanding them, satisfying them is what I should do at the moment before regretting it when it's too late. 
My parents have spend half a life time raising me up and they have never pseudo listen to me at all, not even once. Whenever I need to talk, they will be there anytime, ready to listen.
After reflecting myself recently, I felt bad and sorry for neglecting them too often by pseudo listening.
This is a bad habit and I've made up my mind to do my best quitting it.

found this on tumblr

credits to allieD19

Rachel

I hear you but I'm not listening!

What is the difference between listening and hearing? Well in this class I have learnt that there are so many differences between listening and hearing. Do we notice sometimes when our mother start nagging because we always woke up late or did not know how to wash dishes and how to cook? Does it can we consider as listening or hearing over our mother’s nag? 

Listening is when we receiving the message and started to construct the meaning to give our responses through verbal or nonverbal. But for hearing, we only receive the message that being received to us but we did not construct any meaning and did not response to it. Anyways, most of us did not know that actually we have variety types of listening, active listening, empathic listening, critical listening and listening for enjoyment. The differences is where we listen with a purpose, listening with a purpose and attempting to understand the other person, listen with evaluating accuracy and listening for enjoyment to relax such as listening to music. During the lecture in class, which technique do we use?  

 In class lecture, students would use three types of listening, active listening, empathic listening and critical listening where we use to receive the message and keep it in our brain memory and start to response to it by understand what have been told to you. Other than that, for memory we have working memory, short-term memory and long-term memory. For working memory is where we interpret and assigns the meaning to the stimuli. For short-term memory, is when temporary storage happened, when the message received, we tend to forget it very easily. For long-term memory, is when the message revived is permanently in the storage space.

Sya

What do you mean by that face?

I have learnt that nonverbal communication is when we communicate with others by using other way round than just using words as a medium to communicate with others to generate the meaning. Maybe we didn’t realize that in daily life we are not using 100% words to communicate and to send messages to one another. Verbal and nonverbal communication can relate with each other and it works very very well for verbal communication to be more effective and bring benefits in addition for nonverbal communication. Repetition is mostly occurs during presentation when we having problem though the slides that the speaker talking about and start to pointing out at the speaker what we don’t understand through the slides that he just presented. This action shows how repetition occurs very well and only happens when the message is sent verbally and nonverbally at the same time. Substitution is when we are communicating with each other by substitute our words with action such as fingers, eyes or tongue. In most cases, by using substitution, this message is fairly clear and easy to understand by most people and doesn’t need any verbal communication instead.

In the class sessions, Miss Allison had given each of our group tasks to show and make everyone understand by emblems, illustrators and adaptors. We were divided by three groups and each of us had to do different action on how these three categories works. Emblems are nonverbal movements that are substitute by words and phrases, it only works in actions without any words include. This action is mostly using in daily life and easy to understand without using words as a medium to communicate. Illustrators is when nonverbal action and verbal action being combined to do some action to send messages to other people. This is being used by small kids when they’re saying that they’re hungry when it comes with action and words. Adaptors is when nonverbal movements that we might think it is okay to do in public but it is only practical to do in private, especially we get nervous of something and started to do something to make we feel calm and better.

 By - Syafenaez Wahid

What You Can Read From One's Facial Expression

Recently, I have been watching a movie series called Lie to Me. Before the production of the drama series, a study has been conducted among a group of psychologist to study the facial expression and gestures of oneself. According to that them, there is always a subconscious and a conscious state of mind among the humans. A person can control oneself not to show any marks or signs of telling lies in his or her conscious state of mind. However, he or she cannot really control their subconscious state of mind. So, whenever someone is telling a lie, he or she will definitely subconsciously do something such as rubbing their nose, touching their ears etc.  In this movie series called Lie to Me, their main study is to study the subconscious mind state of a human. And from there, they can actually tell whether the victims or the criminals are telling lies.

In the movie series called Lie to Me, a gifted psychologist name Dr Cal Lightman can actually detect truth by analyzing a person’s face, body, tone of voice and speech. According to Dr Cal Lightman, whenever a person is having a genuine smile, the movement of muscle from the lips will orbit the eyes making the eyes become smaller. Beside, whenever a person is showing a genuine smile, he or she will always have pushed up cheeks and crow feet’s wrinkles’ at the end of their eyes.

When someone shows fear, their eyebrows will be raised and pulled together. The upper eyelids will raised and the lower eyelids somehow show tense. Besides, the lips are slightly stretched horizontally back to the ears.

When someone is in the anger state, you can tell by reading his facial expression. His eyebrows together with his eyelids will move downward. He has a very fierce and strict eye glare. He will have a narrowing lip to show that he is angry.

 Therefore, by analyzing the facial expressions, you can actually read someone feelings, from hidden resentment to jealousy. For example, when someone shrugs one shoulder, rotates their hand or raises their lower lip, we can tell from their expression whether they are telling lies or not.

                                                                                                                                       STEFFI THAM

I'm a Malaysian Chinese!

Explaining my identity to people from foreign countries especially people from China is really troublesome.
They tend to not see the difference between Malay and Malaysian when I proudly introduce myself as "I'm a Malaysian".
 Here is something that me and my friend had both encountered recently.


China man: Are you Chinese?
你是华人吗？
Me: Yes, I am.
我是。
China man: Which state are you from?
哪个洲来的？
Me: Selangor.
雪兰鹅洲
China man: *confuse* Pardon me? Guang Zhou?
对不起，广州？
Me: No, no. I'm local, Malaysian.
不是不是，我是本地人，马来西亚人。
China man: Oh, you are Malay.
哦，你是马来人。
Me: *smack head* No no! I'm not a Malay, I'm a Malaysian.
不是不是！我不是马来人，我是马来西亚人。
China man: So you are Chinese or Malay?
那么你到底是华人还是马来人？
Me: *almost yelling* I'm a Malaysian Chinese!
我是马来西亚华侨！
China man: Ah.. I see. *finally he get's it*
啊，我明白了。


Although we are both Chinese and speak the same language but there is difference in it.
The same term we use might refer to different subject such as:


"Chinese" in his terms is referring to China people.
"State" refers to which part are you from in China.
"Malaysian" and "Malay" is the same to him.
"Malaysian Chinese" is a Chinese who lives in Malaysia.


So, whenever you go to China, always introduce yourself as "I am a Malaysian Chinese".
If not, you might have to give them a good explanation about the difference between "Malay" and "Malaysian".

I will feel like I'm a chicken talking to a duck 

when people don't get what I'm trying to said 

no matter how hard I tried my best to explain. 

In mandarin, it's call 鸡同鸭讲

Rachel

Why can't I understand what you are trying to tell me??!!!

 A Celcom advertisement in Penang..

Anyone can guess what it means??

For me, Penang is the like best place on earth. I love it so much because it is advanced, the food is awesome and I m from Penang!! It is a state dominated by Hokkien people, therefore most of us speak Hokkien, a type of Chinese dialect. So, if one who stays in Penang but cannot understand or speak Hokkien, it is consider as “weird”. Hence, I speak Hokkien too but not really in a fluent way because Hokkien is only a type of language which I will use when I am communicating with someone older or when I m ordering food.  Mandarin is still my mother tongue.

Before I move to KL, I m so proud of myself being a Penang Chinese because in my opinion, most of the Chinese in Penang can speaks “normal” and "better" mandarin. (No Offense to Chinese in other states ok??Just my personal opinion..) This is mainly because whenever I meet some other Chinese from other states, especially from Ipoh and KL, the way they speak Mandarin is totally different from the way I speak. They have a very strong influence of Cantonese (a type of Chinese dialect commonly spoke in KL and Ipoh) in their mandarin.. For example, my friend in KL will say “naturally” as “生成” but I will say “天生”. Hence, there will be sometime where I really cannot understand the terms they are using during conversation because it is actually direct translation from Cantonese.  **FYI, I am now complaint by other friends that my Mandarin has very strong influence of Hokkien too!! Am i?

In fact, I learn Cantonese through watching Hong Kong TVB drama series. Thus, I speak in Hong Kong style instead of Malaysian style and my friend laugh at me all the time when I speak Cantonese because it is weird. Sometimes I actually wonder why Malaysian Cantonese is so different from Hong Kong’s. I have a funny story from one of my friend who visited Hong Kong last year. So, after she finished her shopping, she went into a café and ordered a drink. However, the waitress forgot to give her a straw and they start their funny conversation. (all in Cantonese)

My friend:  “水草，唔该!!”  Can I get a straw please?

(At the same time, she looked around and realized that everyone was looking at her weirdly. )

Waitress: “有啲咩可以帮你啊?” Can I help u?

My friend: “我要一枝水草..”  I need a straw.

(The waitress do not understand what she requesting and reply,)

Waitress: “水草? 水草是咩来? 可以形容下吗?” Can you please briefly describe the items that you want?

(the waitress interpret it as water grass because 水is water and 草is grass. So in her point of view, how can water and grass be an item?) 

My friend was so pissed off that time because a cafe waitress cannot even understand what “水草”is.  So, she pointed to the drink and use her hand to show a long plastic tube which is use to suck the drink. 

My friend: “水草你都唔知? 点做餐厅啊? 水草就是个啲长长塑胶管啊..无理由你唔知啊..” How can you don't know what straw is? The long plastic tube we use it to drink water..

The waitress finally understands what she asking for and immediately laughs at my friend.

Waitress:  “哦，你要揾吸管是不是?!!”  Oohh, are you looking for straw?

At that point of time, my friend realized that they actually call straw differently and she was so embarrassed. She also got a lesson- always adapt to their culture and language whenever you are in a new place.

Sue

Do your perception is always right?

Perception is always related to the first expression that we make towards the very first time we experienced, such as meeting new people. Different people will be experiencing different perception towards the new person that they’re meeting because of the differences in perception such as the psychological factors. Different people has different lenses, the way they looking to that particular person might be different to how we look at that one person especially how the way he act. I might think he’s such a nice person but for my friend he’s not. Past experiences and roles take place on how we look at one person as we aware of what we have experienced from the past. For an example, as my mother doesn’t and never like cheese cause if she had cheese in her meals, she would vomit. So every food that is containing cheese even how good the taste is, she wouldn’t want to eat because she’s allergic to it

Sometimes people would make perceptual errors, not all of us would have a correct perception. Perceptual errors might be misleading to stereotyping and how we react to the first impressions. Stereotyping is when we’ve already put our own perception towards certain things such as when many people stereotype that all Chinese people only thing about money, whatever they do they’d thing money would comes first. But it’s all wrong, not all Chinese people are think about money, this is only happened when people is start stereotyping about others.

Other than that, perceptual errors would occurs when they’re already making their own assumption towards their first impression, such as people already make their assumption during the initial opinion about another person. “Don’t judge a book by its cover” would be the best quote so that people would not make assumptions before they know well about that one person so that perceptional errors would not occurs.



Syafenaez Wahid

Perception, Self and Communication

I never keep any diaries because it shall be a tool for those who wanted to hurt me. 

I never like blogging because I knew that my thoughts will be vulnerable towards public. 

I know I might sound like I have paranoia disorder but I perceive myself as one that really pay attention towards personal privacy. Well, definitely people will tell me that I could alter the privacy settings but what’s the point writing a diary online and doing your best to keep it a secret? 

Deep down inside everyone there’s a lust to be famous through any channel. 

If I blog, I wanted the whole world to notice my existence, but obviously that wouldn't happen because I will never wanted to share my true thoughts on my blog. And I've never meant to disguise my true identity to be a dishonest blogger just for publicity purpose. 

So, this is me.

I truly believe that people could see through each other, understand one’s personality better through words. From a hundred words above, you might have form a rough idea, either positive or negative perception about me. I don’t really care whether you like me or not but I’m really interested to know what kind of impression you have on me from the few hundred words I wrote above. 

So, please comment. Will you? =)

By the way, when I said I could know a person better through his or her writings, I really mean it.

“When the melody ends, you will exchange your vow with her,

How I can stand this, watching you slipping the ring on her finger,

I try to hate you, but I can’t, I don’t want to be a love beggar,

Perhaps I shall silent my love, my heart, my wishes with my soul later” (anonymous, 2008)

The whole story shall be a secret, blame my high privacy settings or paranoia disorder. The conclusion is I and her had become the very best of friends because I see through her trouble from the above paragraph of writing and prevented her from doing something stupid.

Trust me. I’m not really a KPOP fan but I’m not against it at all. However, I really think this song provides the exact feeling for the story above.  Taeyang’s Wedding Dress. Enjoy.

Rachel

First Impression!!!

 

First impression always plays a vital role in daily interaction between people. Do you agree?? It forms a perception in people’s  mind what kind of people you are and it will also determine the way people treats you. So, please make sure you give others a good first impression every time or you will end up having the same “misfortune” like me.

I guess everyone will be excited for their college life as it is like a second chapter in our life and we’ll be starting to be treated as an adult. Besides, the most important reason- finally we are set FREE!! No more discipline teacher who will chop off our hair just because she is in her menopause; no more funny and ugly school uniforms!! College is like a new place to meet people from different background, to study what we really want to study and it will definitely be a heaven!  Therefore, I believe all of us hope to have a good and memorable one. 

The first day of college is like a WAR. Everyone hopes to stand out from the crowd and be one of the star (I mean be notice by others). Thus, most people will try to dress up as nice as possible especially during the orientation. However, this is exactly opposite for me. OK I admit that sometimes I tend to be drab as I am lazy to think of “what to wear for tomorrow”. Plus, I have something on my head which is outstanding enough to grab other’s attention-my gold hair. So, I end up being perceive as a “clubbing, alcoholic and wild girl” just because I have gold hair. (See how important first impression in?? *wink*) In fact, the reason why I dye my hair to GOLD is because of a part time job as a hair model (do not ever sacrifice your hair just because of few hundred bucks because it is not worth it at all!) and I do not have any interest on clubs. Last but not least, I hate drinking and do not understand the reason why people willing to spend on them just to make themselves unconscious. Therefore, those people who perceive themselves as “good, obedient and hardworking” will try to stay at least 3 feet from me as we are not in the same channel!(ok, maybe not 3 feet but just difficult to get along with..)

Now, even though I’ve already grow back all my black hair, there is still people who will perceive me as “clubbing, alcoholic and wild girl” because this is the first impression I gave them during the first day we know each other. Besides, I also realized that I have a bad habit whereby I used to cross my arms in front of my chest with a serious or so called “critical face”, which recently I become conscious that it is actually a type of self protecting gestures and facial expression in which will keep people away from you.

In a nut shell, what I can conclude from my own story is that keep yourself NORMAL and do not do something which is too OUTSTANDING especially when you need to meet new people because people tend to get along with someone who is similar to themselves. In addition, be friendly (say cheese~~ ) and always pay attention on our own body movement and gestures as they might be a sign of “hey, please do not come near me..”.

Good luck and stay tune for my next entry..=)

Sue