I hear you but I'm not listening!

What is the difference between listening and hearing? Well in this class I have learnt that there are so many differences between listening and hearing. Do we notice sometimes when our mother start nagging because we always woke up late or did not know how to wash dishes and how to cook? Does it can we consider as listening or hearing over our mother’s nag? 

Listening is when we receiving the message and started to construct the meaning to give our responses through verbal or nonverbal. But for hearing, we only receive the message that being received to us but we did not construct any meaning and did not response to it. Anyways, most of us did not know that actually we have variety types of listening, active listening, empathic listening, critical listening and listening for enjoyment. The differences is where we listen with a purpose, listening with a purpose and attempting to understand the other person, listen with evaluating accuracy and listening for enjoyment to relax such as listening to music. During the lecture in class, which technique do we use?  

 In class lecture, students would use three types of listening, active listening, empathic listening and critical listening where we use to receive the message and keep it in our brain memory and start to response to it by understand what have been told to you. Other than that, for memory we have working memory, short-term memory and long-term memory. For working memory is where we interpret and assigns the meaning to the stimuli. For short-term memory, is when temporary storage happened, when the message received, we tend to forget it very easily. For long-term memory, is when the message revived is permanently in the storage space.

Sya

What do you mean by that face?

I have learnt that nonverbal communication is when we communicate with others by using other way round than just using words as a medium to communicate with others to generate the meaning. Maybe we didn’t realize that in daily life we are not using 100% words to communicate and to send messages to one another. Verbal and nonverbal communication can relate with each other and it works very very well for verbal communication to be more effective and bring benefits in addition for nonverbal communication. Repetition is mostly occurs during presentation when we having problem though the slides that the speaker talking about and start to pointing out at the speaker what we don’t understand through the slides that he just presented. This action shows how repetition occurs very well and only happens when the message is sent verbally and nonverbally at the same time. Substitution is when we are communicating with each other by substitute our words with action such as fingers, eyes or tongue. In most cases, by using substitution, this message is fairly clear and easy to understand by most people and doesn’t need any verbal communication instead.

In the class sessions, Miss Allison had given each of our group tasks to show and make everyone understand by emblems, illustrators and adaptors. We were divided by three groups and each of us had to do different action on how these three categories works. Emblems are nonverbal movements that are substitute by words and phrases, it only works in actions without any words include. This action is mostly using in daily life and easy to understand without using words as a medium to communicate. Illustrators is when nonverbal action and verbal action being combined to do some action to send messages to other people. This is being used by small kids when they’re saying that they’re hungry when it comes with action and words. Adaptors is when nonverbal movements that we might think it is okay to do in public but it is only practical to do in private, especially we get nervous of something and started to do something to make we feel calm and better.

 By - Syafenaez Wahid

What You Can Read From One's Facial Expression

Recently, I have been watching a movie series called Lie to Me. Before the production of the drama series, a study has been conducted among a group of psychologist to study the facial expression and gestures of oneself. According to that them, there is always a subconscious and a conscious state of mind among the humans. A person can control oneself not to show any marks or signs of telling lies in his or her conscious state of mind. However, he or she cannot really control their subconscious state of mind. So, whenever someone is telling a lie, he or she will definitely subconsciously do something such as rubbing their nose, touching their ears etc.  In this movie series called Lie to Me, their main study is to study the subconscious mind state of a human. And from there, they can actually tell whether the victims or the criminals are telling lies.

In the movie series called Lie to Me, a gifted psychologist name Dr Cal Lightman can actually detect truth by analyzing a person’s face, body, tone of voice and speech. According to Dr Cal Lightman, whenever a person is having a genuine smile, the movement of muscle from the lips will orbit the eyes making the eyes become smaller. Beside, whenever a person is showing a genuine smile, he or she will always have pushed up cheeks and crow feet’s wrinkles’ at the end of their eyes.

When someone shows fear, their eyebrows will be raised and pulled together. The upper eyelids will raised and the lower eyelids somehow show tense. Besides, the lips are slightly stretched horizontally back to the ears.

When someone is in the anger state, you can tell by reading his facial expression. His eyebrows together with his eyelids will move downward. He has a very fierce and strict eye glare. He will have a narrowing lip to show that he is angry.

 Therefore, by analyzing the facial expressions, you can actually read someone feelings, from hidden resentment to jealousy. For example, when someone shrugs one shoulder, rotates their hand or raises their lower lip, we can tell from their expression whether they are telling lies or not.

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