You & Me

“eh eh, what type of boyfriend/ girlfriend are you looking for ?Why are you so picky? ”

“ what type of man/woman you like?”

These are all the common topics among friends when they are talking about relationship. Or I should say, these are the most discussed topic among GIRLS. *gossipppzzzz*  Girls always love to chat about LOVE issues as they are naturally ROMANTIC animals. Right Gurls??? Everyone has different opinion and requirements for their partners as everyone see things differently. Therefore, In this post, I am going to talk about the way one chooses their partners. 

First and foremost, PROXIMITY!!!!! Do you actually realize most people will choose people who are actually NEARER with them as their future boyfriend/girlfriend candidates? It is mainly because if two people are staying near to each other, they can reduce or avoid the hassle of travelling around just to meet up for dating. Or i should say, the BOYFRIEND will be easier as he does not need to drive all the way just to pick up the GIRLFRIEND. (save cost, save petrol, save energy) However, there are still a lot of exception whereby people prefer someone who stay far away from them. Their reason? They want to get out from the OLD place and community that they had already stayed for 20years, 30years or even longer. They need some fresh air from other places to live up their boring life. Some people even go for love across country or region!! How awesome is that right?? Long distance relationship is not easy as one needs to have strong determination and put more efforts to maintain the love. Besides, because of their “mighty" love, therefore we have some beautiful and cute mix children. (Do you agree that people with mix blood tend to be more good looking?) 

Second, Attractiveness!!!! What is the definition of attractive then? Sexy body, cute face? good personality?  Maybe this should be the no. 1 criteria instead of proximity. Appearance always comes first right?? People tend to be attracted by one’s appearance first before he or she continues to develop the feeling towards that person and eventually, build up relationship with that person. it is normal and common scenario to see that good looking people tend to start a relationship earlier than average looking people. Although people tend to emphasize on inner beauty, but do you really think you want to be together with someone who has  "face problem" when you actually have the qualifications to get a better looking people as your partner? at the same time, the society nowadays are pretty realistic, therefore,how you look still counts.

Similarity will be the next. Similarity covers a large scope and this is what helps to tie two person together and creates topics. For example, if two people study the same course in college, they can discuss and do revision together as both people understand the same knowledge. Beside, they will have the same group of friend as well and this is easier for them if there is any group outing. At least no one will feel left out. In addition, some people will go for someone who has the same hobby. For example, if the BOYFRIEND loves fishing but the GIRLFRIEND love partying, it is difficult for both people to accommodate each other's  need as they have totally different personality. Same theory apply to a pair of couple with different favorite food. If the BOYFRIEND cannot eat spicy food but the GIRLFRIEND cannot survive without chili, it is obvious that they will face difficulties when choosing restaurants.

However, there are still people who prefer to choose one who has completely different personality from him or her. Using the same example from the paragraph above, the BOYFRIEND who loves quiet (fishing as hobby)  might need a happening GIRLFRIEND (loves partying) to brighten up his dull life. The happening GIRLFRIEND is actually complementing his quiet personality.

In conclusion, everyone has different preference in their process of searching for their SOUL MATE. BUT, as the saying goes, LOVE IS BLIND!!! Most of the time, our current partner is totally different from what we have had imagined previously. If you imagine to have a tall boyfriend, you might end up having a short boyfriend. *this is what had actually happened to me..but try to think it in a good way, appearance comes second when you realize that HE really loves you. It is not easy to find someone who treats you just like a princess and really compatible with you right??*

 Good Luck in your journey to TRUE LOVE..Bon Voyage!!! 

                                                                                                  By Sue